To all the weary moms out there:
I wanted to write you a quick note to remind you of some things. Parenting can be hard and sometimes we just need to be encouraged. So read this, and remember you are not alone in this thing called motherhood!
When you don’t feel seen, remember that Jesus sees you. It seems there is always an endless list of things that need to be done; a lot of small and hard things that are usually done without any recognition. Do those things for Jesus. He does notice. You have a purpose in him. He loves you, don’t forget!
When you feel lonely, remember Jesus is always with you. It can be hard when there are only small people around you all day. Taking care of kids can be time consuming, leaving not much time to do anything else. Start a continuous conversation with Jesus. Talk with him throughout the day. He is there. It can be so good for the soul to talk to him. And don’t give up reaching out to your friends. They might feel the same way. Make time to hang out. You will be glad you did.
When you feel overwhelmed, step back and take a deep breath. Lock yourself in the bathroom for a moment if you need to. 😉 Pray and ask Jesus to remind you that he will give you strength. You don’t have to carry the weight alone. You weren’t meant to. It can all seem like it can’t be done, but give yourself some grace. Do what you can today. Have realistic expectations, some things can wait.
When you feel hurt, tell Jesus how you are feeling. It is okay to admit your feelings have been hurt. Sometimes our kids can say mean things. We can’t be their friend all the time and shouldn’t try. Remember they might just be trying to get a reaction or attention. They need a place to be loved for the whole person they are. That doesn’t mean you deserve to be beaten down though. Ask Jesus to help you process, forgive your child, and remember where your worth comes from. From the unconditional love of Jesus.
When you feel out of control, just remember that you aren’t in the first place. It’s hard not to want to control everything. It can be scary sending our kids out into the world, or not knowing what the future holds. But this I do know, Jesus has it all under control. And he is trustworthy. There has never been a time he hasn’t been in control. He wants what is best for us and our families. Admit to him your control issues, and ask him to help you trust him. You will have more peace this way.
When you feel worn out, ask Jesus for some rest and extra energy. Take care of yourself. Ask for help from your spouse or a friend. No one will know you need help unless you ask. It’s okay to let others know you need something. It’s not a sign of weakness to rely on others. That’s the way it should be.
When you feel like you aren’t good enough, don’t believe it for a second. You are completely loved and accepted by Jesus. I know it is hard not to compare yourself to others, especially when mainly all we see on social media is the good stuff. But I can guarantee those moms are just like you, and they don’t have it all together either. The minute you notice you are wishing you were like someone else, ask Jesus to remind you how loved you are by him. Then thank him for the unique ways he has made you, and for all that he has given you. Comparison will always be a trap that will constantly leave you wanting more.
Just know how important your job is, even though there might be rough spots along the way. Take a moment to rest, and then get back up again. Don’t quit! Jesus is always there to help you, guide you and give you strength. You can do this!